SEX TOY PARTY ETIQUETE
PLEASURE GUIDE TO SEX TOY PARTY ETIQUETE AND SWINGING

Sex toy parties and swinging are an enjoyable way of meeting new friends for social sex and pleasure between consenting adults. Commonly they consist of male and female couples meeting other couples for pleasure and sex; generally creating an ongoing friendship. Male and female singles are also usually welcome at sex toy parties. Swingers come from all areas and occupations and tend to be in the 19-53 age groups, although they can be younger or older.

This pleasure scene can take a variety of different forms. Single women are generally welcome at swinging events, but single men's acceptance varies party to party - it depends on the sex toy party etiquete. Female bisexuality is very much accepted in the sex toys party and swinging scene, but the degree to which male bisexuality is accepted varies.

Sex toy parties and swingers parties can be "on-premises" (which means that one may interact sexually with others at that event) or "off-premises" (which means that one would generally go back to the home or hotel room of other couples for sex, after deciding to do so at the event). A party such as 'debauchery' is an on-premises party, while 'saints and sinners' are officially off-premises.

Sex toy party etiquete

Swinging has etiquete rather than rules but remember you should be responsible adults before you enter into such a scene. If you need cast iron rules, you should not even be there. Adhering to etiquete allows you to have more pleasure and a safer experience, while participating at any swinger parties.

Sex toy party etiquete varies so hosts of parties may have somewhat different guidelines. A courtesy call beforehand to acquaint yourself with what is expected at that particular party is advisable. Also there is a lot of preparation involved in organising a sex toy/swingers party so ask the host if they would like you to bring some food. Good quality snacks breads, desserts, and fresh fruit are always welcome.

When you are attending a sex toy/swinger party, try not to be late.:::: "fashionably late" is out of date and rude. If you cannot attend, an immediate phone call would be most appreciated to correct the numbers involved.

Drugs are not a common problem at sex toy/swinger parties as they are usually prohibited. Social drinking is deemed okay, overindulgence is not. If you need lots of alcohol to pleasure yourself or anybody else, then these parties are not for you.

When you attend a sex toy/swinger party, arrive and leave with your partner. It is considered bad etiquette for either partner to arrive or leave alone.

Most sex toys/swinger parties ask for casual but attractive clothing. You're there to pleasure and be pleasured so it pays to look nice. If the party is an on-premise party, it may be a good idea to take along some comfortable and sexy clothing.

Sex toy party etiquette is not attempting to hire an escort or sex worker to go to a swinging event with you because you don't have a regular female partner, just so you can get in the door. This is a seriously bad idea. It's considered innappropriate and may well be sufficient to get you black-listed. It is a practice that is highly likely to be noticed by others - don't upset thei pleasure. A related concept is taking along someone who isn't really your partner and isn't really interested in swinging. We call such people 'door passes' or 'tickets' - this practice is not good. We'll black-list you and as word spreads, others will too.

If you want nothing more than to see your partner getting pleasure or having sex with another woman, you will probably be better off forgetting about it. Wandering around by yourself, attempting to find a woman who wants to have sex with you, or otherwise trying to push a personal choice into happening, is considered bad taste and does not relate to sex toy party etiquete or swinger's etiquete.

Remember to interact with both partners of a couple you and your partner are interested in. Not just the partner you are interested in having sex with. Ultimately, it's your ability to form friendships with couples which will determine the quality of your pleasure/ experience in the sex toys/swinging scene.

Do not touch people, even in what you think of as a friendly way. Just because a man or woman is standing naked next to you smiling does not mean it's ok to touch a part of that person's body. Always ask permission first. Even a warm hug to say hello or good bye is a 'no no in some circles. Watch and see if someone goes to hug someone else first or if you are invited to do so.

Party Propositions

The right to say "no" is a steadfast rule at any event. If you do not wish to swing with that particular person or couple, a simple "no thank you" with no explanation is all that is required. Explanations can only lead to problems and upset.
Do not join in scenes, even if it looks like they are free-for-alls. A scene that may look to you like lots of people are joining in to pleasure or otherwise play might in fact be pre-arranged between participants. Join in only if you are clearly asked to.

The social space is a place to chat! So be quiet while scenes are going on. The joking comment you think you are quietly telling the person next to you is often heard by other people. During sex your senses are sometimes hyper-tuned and on edge. Would you want someone to whisper something about you at the point of orgasm? Be polite, don't talk or whisper.

Hosting
If you are thinking of hosting a party, it is good sex toy party etiquete and swingers etiquette to anticipate your guests' requirements by having plenty of towels, wipes, lubricants and toiletries available and clean sheets on the beds. When they arrive, give them a tour of your house, showing them the bathrooms and bedrooms. Explain what bedrooms are to be used for what activities - for example, the group sex room may be the largest bedroom in the house and not the box room.

Grooming and cleanliness is essential when attending a swinger party. Arriving showered and shaved will make yours and other's party experience pleasurable. Take along any toiletries, towels and of course your safe sex supplies that you require for your pleasure.

Sexually transmitted infections have never been a big problem among swingers; safe sex has become more and more an "in thing" in the swinging scene. The use of condoms has become common and anybody who is offended by using condoms is considered selfish and irresponsible.

Sex Toy parties

Use of sex toys is generally most welcome at a swinger party. Make sure your sex toys are always cleaned as recommended by manufacturers before and after and make sure you use condoms on them as well, just for good measure and keep apparatus well maintained.

Clean pleasure furniture to remove sweat or bodily fluids when you are finished with them. Pick up your toys so someone else can use the play area - leave it as you would expect to find it. Hosts often provide appropriate cleaning materials if you don't have them to hand.

Most people have had thoughts of sex outside of their relationship and those who have pursued it usually do so by cheating on their partners. Swinging gives people the chance to have sexual fulfilment and maybe carry out a fantasy for both the man and woman. While swinging can enhance a couple's sex life and their relationship, be aware that if you do not have a strong trusting relationship and control over your emotions, it can bring jealousy.

Swinging couples come from all walks of life and most are your everyday people with a job, family and children. Partygoers tend to be outgoing, friendly and have a huge sense of adventure. Swingers tend to see the exciting lifestyle as a recreational and social activity.